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Prince George after the funeral of his great-grandmother, Queen Elizabeth II, Monday September 19.
ELIZABETH II’S GRAVE – Everyone was there. Heads of state, members of the British government, children (King Charles III, Princess Anne, Duke of York and Prince Edward), grandchildren (Prince William and Harry), and great-grandchildren: Prince George, Princess Charlotte and… Prince Louis? Well no. The youngest of the royal brothers, from the height of his 4 years, was not at the funeral of Queen Elizabeth II, this Monday, September 19.
According to the Anglo-Saxon press, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge believe that Prince Louis is too young to attend such a solemn event. The latter also missed the funeral of his great-grandfather, Prince Philip. On the other hand, he was widely photographed for his happy faces during the queen’s jubilee, in June.
A drawing, candle or note
For psychologist-therapist for children and adolescents Catherine Verdier, however, there is no minimum age required to attend a funeral. “During meditation or in church, they have a place and can even play a role in these moments: they can leave a drawing, a candle, say a little word. It can be important; they see that we have right to cry, that they may allow themselves to do so”he explained to HuffPost.
Contacted on site magic momclinical psychologist specializing in parenting, Laurie Eghissian, adds that the child’s presence at a funeral can be beneficial if the parent “felt it would help him in the grieving process”.
Catherine Verdier, on the other hand, fully understood the absence of Prince Louis in this ceremony: “We asked them a lot of questions. A 4-year-old child should not last two hours in such solemn circumstances”.
There has been no cemetery for 6 or 7 years
According to the specialist, especially when going to the cemetery or the crematorium, the question is whether or not to take the child. “Usually it’s hard and raw, he really needs to go there. There’s no question of forcing him to do it”, he believed. And this, only from the age of 6 or 7 – except in very special cases, when it comes to parents for example.
From this age, he continued, that children “ask questions about death: – What is there? What shall we do? – but also of identity, and this can be an opportunity to respond to it”.
Be careful, however, not to prompt a child to do so “hypersensitive, or who don’t want to go. Some have real concerns about death.warned Catherine Verdier.
Prepare the child
Whether you are taking your child to the ceremony or the cemetery, it is still important to prepare him for what awaits him. “You must explain what will happen, announce the death of the deceased, explain why in some cases, describe what you will do to honor his memory”, explained the psychologist. This stage can be difficult if one has been personally touched by the loss of the deceased, in this case there is no need to hesitate to ask a family member to deal with it.
On the side of the royal family, the children live in any case of this loss in their own way. If Prince George really knew about his great-grandfather’s death, Prince Louis asked questions like: “Do you think we can still play those games when we go to Balmoral, since he’s gone?” » Prince Louis is now the fourth in line to the British crown, behind his father Prince William, and his siblings George and Charlotte.
See also at The HuffPost: Funeral of Elizabeth II: UK observes two minutes silence