How can we stop speculating about other people’s pregnancies?

Is Meghan Markle pregnant? How can we stop speculating about other people’s pregnancies? (Photo by Kirsty O’Connor – WPA Pool/Getty Images)

As always, it is enough in one photo to burn the powders. While Prince Harry and his wife Meghan Markle appeared in front of the gates of Balmoral to pay tribute to Queen Elizabeth II, who died a few days ago, the stomach of the Duchess of Sussex was pointed out. A small bulge suggests, according to Internet users, a pregnancy. But should we really be playing guessing games and assuming that a little baby bump is proof of impending birth?

“Meghan Markle is pregnant!” This sentence, a few days after the death of Queen Elizabeth II, is on everyone’s lips, in the press and in social networks. However, no notification was made on the part of the main interested party, or his spouse. This is pure speculation inspired by a photo taken outside Balmoral, where the Duke and Duchess of Sussex reunited with Kate Middleton and Prince William to pay their respects to the late sovereign.

In the picture, Meghan Markle’s black, form-fitting dress reveals an almost invisible bulge, which actually looks like the beginning of a baby bump, but could also have 1,000 other meanings, from a hearty breakfast to menstruation that results in a swollen uterus, or even simple eruption. But the majority of the public is so used to seeing only flat, smooth stomachs that the slightest relief leads to frequent unwanted comments.

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Let women talk about their pregnancy whenever they want

Pregnancy is something intimate, very personal, even if the announcement of the upcoming birth is considered a happy event. Unfortunately, once a person is pregnant, their body seems to fall more into the public domain. All people who have experienced pregnancy confirm the behavior of these strangers who want to touch their stomach, comment on their weight, give their opinion on the future name, education, or even the person’s diet. expecting a baby.

On the side of the stars, others, like Kylie Jenner, prefer to keep their pregnancy a secret, and this happens more often. Their purpose: to protect themselves in this sometimes complicated time, and to take advantage of this unique opportunity. But these women were all criticized as if they were “depriving” their audience of something they were supposed to share. However, there are many reasons to hide a pregnancy, whether it is to benefit from a minimum of peace of mind or to preserve one’s health, or even out of fear, if something happens to the child.

The fear of natural termination of pregnancy

The case of Meghan Markle is particularly telling. The mother of two, Archie and Lilibeth, the former actress and her husband do everything to protect their children from the harmful attention of the paparazzi. But the Duchess of Sussex also shared why she took precautions and waited before announcing her pregnancy. After the birth of her eldest son, she had a natural termination of pregnancy. Wednesday November 25, 2020, in the columns of the New York Times, Meghan Markle spoke in a forum, and revealed that she got pregnant a few months ago, a year after the birth of her son Archie. He was with the latter when he started to feel bad: “After changing his diaper, I felt a strong nervousness (…) I know, when I hugged my first child in my arms, that I lost the second.”

Then he said: “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable sadness, experienced by many but few people talk about it”, and evoked his decision to speak about this taboo subject, “shrouded in an irrational sense of shame, continues a cycle of solitary mourning.” The opportunity for him to support people who choose to talk about their perinatal grief, as it happened for Chrissy Teigen: “Some have the courage to tell their stories: thus they prepare the way, know that by telling the truth they will allow others to do the same.” Giving pregnant women the choice to announce (or not) their pregnancy means giving them control over their own narrative. But obviously, it is not so clear at all.

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“Every time I’m bloated, those around me think I’m pregnant”

Faced with comments on the alleged “baby bump” of Meghan Markle, many Internet users took to the floor to criticize these speculations. “If they think Meghan is pregnant, they should see me after dinner,” some people commented on social media. A situation that Eléa, 27, knows very well: “I have big digestive problems. All I have to do is eat something to find myself with a swollen stomach. On public transport , people give their seats to me. and ask me ” When? Pointing to my stomach. Every time, I want to answer that it will pass the moment I go to the bathroom … Even those around me don’t seem to have learned the lesson because my uncles and aunts always ask me if I’m pregnant, if I’m bloated just me.”

For the young woman, this proves a type of sexism that is deeply rooted in our patriarchal society. “Women’s bodies are often commented on, and thinness is still considered normal. Therefore, instead of imagining that a woman cannot have a flat stomach for a thousand and one reasons, we prefer to think that she is pregnant . Every time that happens to me, I feel like I’m being pushed back to how society sees me: as a womb, a hen whose only purpose is to give birth.” “People cannot imagine the violence of these comments,” confirmed Marine, 37. The young woman is sterile, but has always dreamed of having a child. “It was enough that my stomach swelled a little to ask me about possible pregnancy, it’s clear that there was no bad intention, but for me, not being able to have children, just turns the knife on the wound. “

So the next time you want to speculate about a pregnancy, whether it’s a star or someone close to you, think about how your comment will be received.

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