“I’ve moved on but I want to live my dream freely”

Hélène de Fougerolles confesses her experience with polyamory: “I moved but I like to live my desire freely” (Photo by Stephane Cardinale/Corbis via Getty Images)

On the eve of her 50th birthday, Hélène de Fougerolles is one of those who does not want to feed any taboo, especially when it comes to love. A few years ago, the actress was revealed to be a follower of polyamory. A way to consider the romantic relationships he recently returned to.

First of all, if your attention stopped at the title of this article without really knowing what the word polyamory means, it is necessary to make an explanation here. No, it’s not about promiscuity or polygamy. When we talk about polyamory, we talk about an almost philosophical way of understanding romantic relationships. Polyamorous people thus allow themselves to have different love stories with many people, without putting it in the box of adultery, because it requires the informed consent of all. And Hélène de Fougerolles at one time was one of those people who chose to explore many romantic relationships.

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“Polyamory changed my life”

It was in August 2020 that, for the first time, the actress confessed without a filter in the columns of Paris Match, revealing that she is polyamorous: “It is not sexual attraction, because it is not sex that drives me to love and possibly exchange some . People. Sharing loving exchanges with men or women, who can also be open to other people.” A time married to the father of her daughter, the film producer Eric Hubert, then in a relationship with the son of Bernard Arnault, Antoine Arnault, Hélène de Fougerolles thus decided to change the way to catch love.

“I have many colleagues. And I’m happy that they will also experience it on their side. It’s still new, it’s been six months” he said at the time, explaining in particular the reasons for this change in life : “I had a lover who was far from me, boring, closed, so I left him because I couldn’t do a long distance relationship with someone from afar.(…) When I discovered this new philosophy of life , I called him back to offer to continue our relationship in this new way of life, he accepted, then I met a new lover, I told him asking if this way of life love interests him.”

Back then, polyamory was not as taboo as it is today. And through her testimony, Hélène de Fougerolles sheds light on this “philosophy of life” that is often misunderstood and confused with other purely sexual practices. “I can also live in other stories of men and women. There are no women yet, but I want to. No more jealousy, history of territory. Love is the answer, I find it absolutely amazing that live it with someone . Polyamory has changed my life” he assured.

From polyamory to celibacy

A few months later, on the airwaves of Europe 1, Hélène de Fougerolles redefined the terms of polyamory, indicating that each of her partners also had “other lovers”. This is where this philosophy of life differs from polygamy. What has always attracted the actress is this idea that she “doesn’t belong” to anyone emotionally. Although many couples who do not practice polyamory do not identify themselves with this idea of ​​belonging. “No more conditions. That’s what I want, confesses Hélène de Fougerolles. I love people for who they are, what they tell me, what we share, but not because it’s me. No more jealousy .”

Two years ago, the 49-year-old actress once again raised the topic in an interview at the Gala. If he has been through many love stories in recent years, he says now that he has “moved on to another”. “But I like not having to go to this imposed pattern that is the couple for two, no longer in a way of possession with its corollary that is jealousy, and to live my desire to be free ” He was specific. For Hélène de Fougerolles, polyamory also became a way of deconstructing beliefs about love and life with her growing up: “Today, I have the impression that the new generation is not above moral judgment . That we can be anything , that we are open to anything and I love that. Whereas when I was 20, I dreamed of marriage, children and a house in the countryside with a dog!”

Today, Hélène de Fougerolles is single and she does not see herself changing to a romantic relationship anytime soon, polyamory or not, as she confessed to the magazine Nous Deux: “I find it very difficult at my age, where there is little utopia. It’s very easy to get bored if I’m with someone all the time. Right now, I don’t want, nor need, to be in a relationship. I even like to alone. I feel good…”

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